Susan Berger MFT, Psychotherapist, Marriage and Individuals Counseling

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I Just Found Out My Partner is Having an Affair!

Discovering an affair can be traumatic. Find out what most people experience during the aftermath. Helpful suggestions are included for dealing with intense emotions within yourself and towards your spouse. Read more...

Can Relationships that Start as Affairs Succeed?

Are you wondering where your affair is going? Learn why it is so difficult to create a successful relationship from an affair as well as which affairs have the best chance of success. Read more...

The Other Woman...a Paradoxical Experience

What starts out as a honeymoon can become mired in hurt, anxiety and confusion. Learn why being the other woman can cause so much distress and what to do about it. Read more...

How to Help Your Partner Heal From Your Affair

Are you feeling guilty seeing your partner in so much pain? There are things you can do (and not do) that can make a big difference in healing from your affair. Read more...

What is an Emotional Affair?

It's not necessarily sex that makes an affair. Learn what kinds of emotional relationships with others can cross the line and hurt your marriage. Read more...

How Do Affairs Effect Children? Part I

It may be surprising to learn that children of all ages are deeply effected by affairs. This article will help you understand and address what is going on with your child during an affair that is kept secret and in the aftermath of it's revelation. Read more...

How Do Affairs Effect Children? Part II

“Should We Tell Our Children?” This is such a painful decision. Every situation is different, yet there are guidelines that can help you consider the best course of action. Read more...

How Do Affairs Effect Children? Part III Infants and Toddlers

It's easy to assume that your youngest isn't effected at all. But from infancy, there is an exquisite sensitivity to the emotional atmosphere in the home. Learn about your infant/toddler's emotional needs and how to mitigate the possible negative effects of the emotional turmoil between you and your spouse. Read more...

I Told You If You Ever Have an Affair it's Over

Discovering your partner's affair may be your worst nightmare; the very thing you warned him about in the beginning. Understanding why you gave this warning in the first place can be an important part of recovery. Read more...

Why Don't I Want to Apologize for the Affair? Part I

Apologizing is sometimes difficult and some find it impossible. Learn some common reasons that you are resistant to apologizing for your affair. Read more...

Why Don't I Want to Apologize for the Affair? Part II Beliefs

There are many beliefs about affairs that make apologies seem unnecessary. Do any of these feel familia Read more...

Questions and More Questions about the Affair

There are questions you can't stop asking and questions you are afraid to ask. The questions you have about your partner's affair have different and important meanings and are important parts of the healing process. Read more...

Children of Affairs

There is shocklingly little written about this group. Find out what Dr. Phil's guest had to say about her life experiences. Learn how being a child of an affair can effect your relationships with yourself and others. Read more...

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